Anger is not only a bad feeling, but it is also harmful to health. Usually, you only get angry when you find something really bad around you. But this does not always happen. Sometimes we ourselves can be the cause of our anger. It doesn’t make us feel good. Not everything in life can happen according to our choice or desire. This uncomfortable feeling can lead to anger. How we express our anger in a healthy way is up to us.
Dr. Nicole Lepera, who goes by the Instagram handle @the.holistic.psychologist, shares some healthy and fun ways to express anger.
Don’t accept unhealthy ways of dealing with anger
According to Dr. Lepera, everyone has an anger management mechanism. Is it important to know how to deal with anger?
Many of us use unhealthy ways to deal with anger. These include –
suppressing or denying anger
venting anger in a harmful or destructive way
Using sadness, inadequacy, or fear as a closed emotion
Hiding behind anger to feel safe
Those who fear anger are more reactive
Dr. Lepera says, “Anger, if expressed in this way, becomes a coping mechanism or a way to avoid deep pain. It is important to understand that if you are constantly angry, it is a sign that your inner child is sending you a message to pay more attention to your own needs.
Experts suggest that otherwise, people may scream, hit walls, or even break things to avoid or deal with anger. This high reactivity is seen in people who are afraid of anger and do not know how to deal with it.
Is there a healthy way to express anger, let’s find out!
healthy ways to express anger
1 Set limits by saying “no” to people who hurt you
Learn to feel the anger in your body by taking 2 deep breaths. This will help you relax.
3 Make your needs clear. If you feel your needs have been ignored or denied, let them know. This will save you from getting angry with suppressed emotions.
4 Learn to stop anger before it starts
5 Notice that your anger is a pattern of self-betrayal or self-betrayal.
6 Release your anger safely by yelling or throwing a pillow.
Know that there is nothing wrong with being angry. This is a normal human feeling. You just need to know the right technique to deal with it in a healthy way.
how to manage anger
1 move your body
Body movement helps release emotional energy. Stretch your body, go for a walk or exercise to feel better. Try to understand what is happening in your body – try breathing, yoga, body movements or dance to get rid of anger. All these measures are effective.
2 Write down all your feelings
Try journaling your thoughts on paper to clear your mind. You can manage anger by writing. Writing helps you get your feelings out. This will reduce your anger and your negative energy will go in a positive direction.
Try to understand that you need time
It is important to be alone when angry. Learn to verbally say, “I want space or a break.” Spending time with yourself forces you to rethink the situation and helps you deal with anger or stress.
4 Be kind to your inner child
Never criticize yourself when you are angry. You have to talk to yourself with love.
5 Don’t make decisions
When you’re angry, don’t make any rash decisions. You may regret your decision later.
Dr. Lepera explains that it is better that we do not make any decisions recklessly, because anger tends to lead us to wrong thoughts and wrong ways.