Often when something goes wrong or is justified by someone else, even when there is no fault, we begin to feel guilty. Our minds often get confused as to who was wrong? Were we right or were we right. Then we naturally start to blame. In most cases, we tend to blame ourselves. If this is the case with you too, let go of the guilt to keep yourself relaxed and happy. Here we tell you how to overcome self-guilt.
How does guilt arise?
We spoke with Dr. Aarti Anand, Senior Consultant Clinical Psychology, Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, on how to keep yourself happy by overcoming guilt.
He told that the person starts to blame himself mostly for any mistake. So he is unable to get out of the misery and starts living under stress. If she wants to, she can keep herself happy by taking some measures.
Here are 6 tips to help you stay happy without feeling guilty
1. Stop blaming yourself
When something goes wrong, most of us start blaming ourselves. In such a situation, you will only remain sad and stressed. Remember that often behind any event there is a whole chain of events that may have contributed to it going wrong.
Nor is it right to tolerate all things for fear of bad consequences. Sometimes your efforts may also fail. So stop blaming yourself for everything from now on.
2. Put yourself first on the priority list
Dr. Aarti Anand says, ‘Taking time for yourself to stay healthy is not a bad thing, but it is necessary for good health. Feeling guilty for not taking care of yourself is the wrong thing to do. Self-care is important. It will help you take better care of others. Put yourself at the top of the priority list.
3. Understand that no one is perfect
If you have made a mistake, look at your mistakes from someone else’s point of view instead of reflecting on the subject. Think how they would have handled this problem if you had a friend or relative in your place? Don’t think you can’t be wrong.
No person is one hundred percent perfect. So instead of wasting time feeling guilty, accept your mistake and do your best to correct it.
4. look forward not back
Don’t think too much about the things you can’t change. If you feel that you have not given your child time, so his performance in studies or other activities so far has been poor, then do not think too much about the child’s failure. It will entangle you in a vortex of problems.
Instead, think ahead about how you will manage time and make time for the child. Try to learn from your past mistakes. Use it to make a positive difference in the lives of yourself, your child and those around you.
5. Habit of making notes in a diary
As soon as something starts to bother you, immediately note it in your diary. Also notice what makes you sad and what makes you happy.
Try to read this scripture every two weeks. By rereading, you will be able to solve the problem on your own. You will learn to release stress and stay happy while developing the habit of making notes in a journal.
6. Treat yourself
Stress abounds due to always being caught up with work at home and in the office. Sit down with a calendar and try to figure out which days work will not be affected too much if you are not at home or in the office. Just give yourself a treat on the same day. Take a break from work and go for a walk alone.
Even a single day’s treat will be enough to give you a lot of thoughts and stress. When you come back after the break, you won’t have any kind of guilt. You will feel refreshed and happy.